Saturday, January 22, 2011

being all you can be.

i’ve been doing some serious soul searching lately and i think that [one of] my biggest faults is my difficulty to forgive. in fact, [embarrassingly enough] in the past i’ve been anti-forgiveness. what can i say, i'm stubborn. i can hold the meanest grudge of them all. what’s up with that?! where did that come from?? i have held onto this silly belief that if i forgive someone then i’ll forget the wrong and i will become a fool all over again. they say it takes strength and courage to forgive. and here all this time i've been thinking it takes strength and courage NOT to forgive.

i think the hardest part of forgiveness is the forgetting part. how can you force yourself to forget? i’ve tried so hard…and the forgiveness part just comes so much easier. but i know it’s not genuine forgiveness until i forget. what if i’m never able to forget?

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
-Mahatma Gandhi

We are all full of weakness and errors; let us mutually pardon each other our follies

I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a canceled note--torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one. 
-Henry Ward Beecher

what are your thoughts, dear friends?


  1. oh sweet kaitlyn, i guarantee that you will soon discover that it is quite easy for you to forgive:) i say that because you are one of the nicest people i've ever met.
    if i ever have a hard time forgiving, i think about how bad i need forgiveness for so many things and then it's easier.
    love you, friend.

  2. I completely agree..that's a tough one for me. And PATIENCE! Oh my, it's never been one of my better qualities! :) Stumbled upon your blog and glad I did!

  3. “Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much.” - Oscar Wilde

    ...for the record, I do not enjoy reading Oscar Wilde...I forgive him for being a boring writer