Monday, December 13, 2010

on regret and romance.

on regret:
dear readers. what are your thoughts on regret? are you one of those people who doesn't believe it should exist? that we learn from each mistake or poor decision, so there is no need to bother with worrying? or are you one of those people who takes the time to punish yourself for those poor decisions, until you no longer feel the agony? check out the five most common regrets posted on dear jack. i often wonder whether i will regret working too hard. or, on the other hand, if i will regret not working hard enough? i work hard. i like to challenge myself and set high expectations for myself. on the other hand, i enjoy playing hard as a reward. (i think that is one of the greatest lessons my mother taught me. it keeps me balanced.) there is that scene in eat, pray, love when they talk about how italians are famous for perfecting the art of doing nothing. cultures that embrace rest and relaxation-are healthier/happier because of it. i wish that i lived in a culture that was more open to this idea because there is something to be said about taking time to listen to the radio and eat a bowl of mint chocolate chip ice cream, or go on a walk just to hear the birds sing. When was the last time you did that?

on romance:
what is the most romantic thing that you've witnessed or experienced lately? my grandparents are the most romantic couple i know. it's just magical to me that they are still so in love with each other after all these years. they still hold hands-to keep each other balanced, and to love each other.
"hand-holding is the one aspect that's not been affected by the sexual revolution,"- dalton conley 
and what do you think about that? hand holding is innocent, and yet it can be very intimate and romantic as well.  i love holding hands. when you hold someone's hand it's a little way of letting the world know that you're happy. (because who ever holds hands with someone they're mad at?!) i just watched the episode in season 6 of S&TC where samantha refuses to hold smith's hand. carrie says: "you mean to tell me that smith is a hand holder?? and to think-he served us food!" that's a good scene.

1 comment:

  1. I've thought about regrets.. and while sometimes I want to say I regret things I've done or things I have let others do to me, I can't say that I truly regret anything because it's all turned out.. okay in the end. I've learned a lot. I've learned what I will tolerate and what I won't, how far is too far, and how hard I can and will fight for myself. This sounds very cheesy, and I know that. I've thought about regret a lot. I don't think it shouldn't exist, necessarily, but personally, I believe that the lessons I've learned and where my life has taken me has been worth it, so I don't know if I can truly regret anything.